Websites

It is important to us that we do not lead you to websites that do not honor God and may not offer the comfort you are seeking. 

Matthew 6:33 tells us “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”

We would also like to avoid leading you to sites that are more concentrated on donations than helping you.  Although there are many good causes to donate to, I can’t imagine giving to a site that does not glorify God and does not give you peace through your tragedy.  So, with that said, each resource we link to from this site will be reviewed first.  Our list will grow longer as we find more sites that we find will be helpful to you!   

Christian Resources

http://www.griefshare.org – this website is a Christ-centered resource that offers information on local Support Groups near you, book resources, daily e-mails, and other general information.  The daily e-mails have helped us tremendously.  The writers incorporate God’s Word in each e-mail and offer a Biblical advice on each topic. 

http://www.klove.com – this is a listener supported website where you can find comfort, peace, and joy through the music of Christian artists.  There are multiple K-Love stations around the US, but if you do not have one in your area, you can listen online by following this link.  In my own experience, I have found that listening to this station when I am thinking of Katelyn and missing her terribly has brought my joy back!  

Post your Story

There are multiple websites where you can submit your story.  These websites offer forums for parents of child losses to communicate with one another.  What a great witnessing tool to show how God has brought you through your loss.  It is also a place where you can meet people and talk through your thoughts on those hard days when the loss seems so recent that you need a shoulder to lean on.

http://www.families.com – this website offers a place to post your story and join forums to talk with other parents who have had similar losses.  Our Story is under the following link: http://forums.families.com/our-baby-angel-katelyn-grace-born-in-heaven-on-august-15-2008,t124460

http://nowisleep.com – this website also offers a place to post your story and join forums to talk with other parents who have had similar losses.  Our Story is under the following link: http://www.nowisleep.com/showthread.php?t=7096

http://www.nilmdts.com – this is the parent website of nowisleep.com.  It stands for “Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep” and is a non-profit organization that exists solely to offer photography services to parents who have lost their babies.  The morning Katelyn was born, David Hails from NILMDTS came to the hospital and took pictures of us with our baby girl.  These pictures are priceless to us.  What a blessing they have been to so many grieving parents.

http://www.aplacetoremember.com/griefhome.html  – this website allows you to post your story.  Our Story is under the following link: http://www.aplacetoremember.com/remembrance/remember_view2.asp?id=14015&index_letter=BF-BO

Informational Links

There are numerous links to give you information on stillborns, specifically how they could have been prevented, what causes them, and how to avoid them in the future.  To us, these websites serve 2 purposes: (1) to make parents feel as though they could have prevented their child’s death, thus causing an unhealthy sense of guilt, and (2) to give parents information on what “might” have caused their child’s death.  I have looked into many of them and have found no comfort.  Only God knows why our babies were born in Heaven rather than on Earth.  To get in the cycle of continually asking yourself “What if I…”, is only going to make you look for a reason that is not there.  Although we will never know what caused Katelyn to be born still, we do know one thing: God is in control and we need to trust Him.  Besides, would knowing why Katelyn died right before birth bring her back? No.

I promise to keep searching for links that I hope you can benefit from, but I want you to keep one thing in the back of your mind as a constant reminder.  “It is not your fault that your baby was born without life.” Sure we want someone to blame, but will that help the situation? Clearly it will not.