We Grieve for Ourselves

February 24, 2009 by Audreys · Leave a Comment 

I looked outside my window today and tears came to my eyes.  The sun was bright as it reflected off the mounds of snow in the yard.  Though it is not here yet, Spring is coming soon.  My first thought was ‘here comes another season without Katelyn’.  She would have been 6 months old now; old enough for first words, long stroller walks along the beach, and high-pitched giggles as I would lean down so her feet could touch the lake water.  I longed for that more than anything when I saw other parents with their babies at the beach last Spring and Summer.  What we have instead is a tree by the beach dedicated to Katelyn Grace. 

In my heart I know Katelyn is in Heaven with Jesus, but my mother’s heart longs to see her.  I know my husband and I will be reunited with her one day, and that gives us more peace than anything else in this world.  Paul states it perfectly in his letter to the church in Thessalonica.  In 2 Thessalonians 4:13-14 he wrote “But we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about those who are asleep, that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope. For since we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, through Jesus, God will bring with him those who have fallen asleep..

We have that hope, therefore although we grieve, we grieve for ourselves.  We don’t grieve for Katelyn because she is already in the place where we want to be when our lives come to an end on this earth; we grieve for ourselves because we miss her.  We do know we will see her again and that hope alone is sufficient. 

It’s times like these when I wonder about the mothers and fathers who lost their babies and yet have no hope.  I can’t even imagine what they must be thinking or feeling.  Without hope, what do they have to comfort them? Without knowing  that Jesus will reunite them one day if they follow in His ways and believe in Him,  what else is there?

So to all of you who are reading this and do not have that hope, and are suffering through your loss on your own, I want you to know that it is not too late.  Jesus said in Matthew 11:28, “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”  Our hope is that you will come to Jesus for the peace and comfort that only He can offer.   

We don’t have all the answers, but we have the truth, and the hope that comes with it.  It would be an honor to share what Jesus has done in our lives with anyone who does not have that hope yet.  We pray that you will find it in Jesus.  And if you cannot seem to find Him on your own, let us know and we will lead you to Him.

Jesus is smiling as He holds our babies right now.  Always remember, they were stillborn, but they were STILL BORN.