King David’s Baby

February 9, 2009 by Audreys · Leave a Comment 

“David therefore sought God on behalf of the child. And David fasted and went in and lay all night on the ground. And the elders of his house stood beside him, to raise him from the ground, but he would not, nor did he eat food with them. On the seventh day the child died. And the servants of David were afraid to tell him that the child was dead, for they said, “Behold, while the child was yet alive, we spoke to him, and he did not listen to us. How then can we say to him the child is dead? He may do himself some harm.” But when David saw that his servants were whispering together, David understood that the child was dead. And David said to his servants, “Is the child dead?” They said, “He is dead.” Then David arose from the earth and washed and anointed himself and changed his clothes. And he went into the house of the LORD and worshiped. He then went to his own house. And when he asked, they set food before him, and he ate. Then his servants said to him, “What is this thing that you have done? You fasted and wept for the child while he was alive; but when the child died, you arose and ate food.” He said, “While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept, for I said, ‘Who knows whether the LORD will be gracious to me, that the child may live?’ But now he is dead. Why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he will not return to me.”” 2 Samuel 12:16-23

This portion of scripture begs the question, why didn’t God save David’s baby?  After all, he pleaded with God, he fasted, he spent 6 days praying for God to change His mind and save his son.  These verses were preceded by David’s affair with Bathsheba, a married woman, and his successful plot to kill her husband so he could have her as his own.  God was well aware of David’s sin, and Nathan the prophet was sent to tell David that his son would die.  God’s punishment for David’s sin was the loss of his son. 

For days David called out to the Lord for His mercy, and was inconsolable until the baby died.  Once the baby died, David’s grief-stricken heart seemed to be at peace. It is hard to comprehend until you read the last verse when David verbalizes what he believes to be true. “Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he will not return to me” 

David realized that the child’s suffering was over, and that his son was now in Heaven with his Heavenly Father.  David did not turn his back on God for this loss, rather he accepted his ‘discipline’, confident that he will see his son again.  David knew that there was nothing that he could do to convince God to bring his son back to him, so rather than continuing to grieve, he showed his inner peace by those simple words. “I shall go to him…”

If there is any verse that you keep close to your heart when you go through the hard days, deeply mourning the loss of your child, be comforted by the knowledge that through the saving grace of Jesus Christ, you can and will see your baby again. 

You might be asking, does that mean that God took away my baby because of my sin? The answer is absolutely not.  Even as Christians we might struggle with that possibility and start blaming ourselves.  No matter whether or not we find out what caused our baby to die, we often shift blame to ourselves.  It is important to tell yourself over and over again that it is not your fault; that your loss was not a judgment from God for your sins; that God did not cause your baby to die. 

David knew he would pay the price of his son in atonement for his sins.  But that was before Jesus came to live among us.  Jesus Christ came here to save us and ultimately died for our sins. Jesus bridged the gap between God and man. Once we confess our sins to our Father and repent, He is faithful and just to forgive us.   So, if you are trying to find a reason, or a sin that God is punishing you for, wipe that thought from your mind.  Instead, pray for peace and God’s mighty strength to get you though this trial, not around it.  

Always remember, our babies were stillborn, but they were Still Born.



Ways that You Can Help

December 17, 2008 by Audreys · Leave a Comment 

1. Pray that God uses us beyond our human capabilities to share His saving grace with others who are grieving the loss of an infant

2. Pray that the brokenhearted turn to God so that He will rain down His grace on them

3. Share Jesus’ unconditional love to each grieving family, whether it is a child who lost a sibling, a grandparent who is grieving for their son or daughter who lost a baby, or even other close relatives.

4. Pray for peace for those couples trying to conceive.  Pray that God grants them patience, knowing that everything happens in His time, not ours.  

5. Pray that we continue to put God’s will before our own.

6. Forward this website link to anyone else you know who is grieving the loss of a child

7. Let us know if you have found any other information useful that we can add to